If you’re always caught up in “I should do this” or “I should do that”, you are never right here, able to actually enjoy what you’ve set up.
If you never enjoy the present, what’s the point of all the shoulds?
It comes down to this: does believing there is a “you” that exists, rather than just “you”-ness patterns, lead to less suffering or more suffering?
I think the idea of the ego as an emergent phenomena is perfectly apt, and it’s an indication of there being “you”-ness, because there is no external soul “causing” things to happen; rather, nature happens and the ego emerges organically.