A great thing to keep in mind, to think through, perhaps, is with regard to the notion of mind changing itself, changing how it perceives, directly.
That is, there can perhaps be much insight in letting go of the idea of a core-self, of some ‘thing’ inside that has control, that can govern the situation.
Truly: embrace ungovernment: remove the compulsion to steer.
And what of this when applied to bigger situations, though?
That is, if you withdraw from the notion of a core-self, of having any power whatsoever, could this give you more flexibility in “designing” the overall situation?
To even ask this question is to perhaps invite disagreement, discord, yet view from the other angle, from a mirrored and flipped one: claiming ‘power’ and not having it can cause suffering.
Living as natural will (where “your” actions are all of nature’s) can alleviate suffering, because there is nothing to blame; things are simply happening, always.