You could perhaps get a little closer to the truth by ceasing a desire to control the world.
Nonetheless, that automaticity is _always_ there; it is really more the _feeling_ of it that calls into question free will.
Suspend (or, more boldly, delete) belief in free will, and the sensation of life becomes lighter; when there is no one to blame, everything done is exactly correct. Such is natural will.
Regardless, fear of the unknown seems to exist for long times; only given constant pressure does it dwindle, perhaps.
Yet such is not inherent truth; different locales experience different levels of openness to the unknown.
Forgiving even that, though, leads one to another question: If you could feel as always automatic, would you?
Does such take away zest from life, does it remove desire to provide for one’s family?
If it does, is that argument against it? Does it depend on the situation?
My gut reaction, that which I think should be justified, is this: yes; no; no; not applicable; no.
Feeling the automaticity is helpful, because it gives inner peace.
Inner peace is helpful, because it allows for and encourages higher-level care for one’s family, because they are treated as beings rather than as tools for one’s own ends.